Nouveau or pro – Bondage basics you mustn’t let go

Bondage pros best learn their activities through first hand experience from an expert. The bondage expert demonstrates a technique for the beginner to try and then asseses their efforts. Even though this may be the best way to learn, not everyone is lucky enough to find a bondage pro. For those less fortunate, here are a few bondage basics that you must remember whether you are a beginner or a pro.

Equipment – The more advanced bondage pros have an extensive collection of whips, paddles, crops and cuffs. Browse the internet and you will stumble upon a wide assortment of bondage equipment. Bondage equipment such as hand cuffs and silk scarves vary in weight, length, texture and materials. Start with simple items at first and then go on to whips and other serious bondage gear.

Methodology – Bondage games normally follow the pattern similar to a roller-coaster ride – start slowly, climb a bit in intensity, return to a slower motion, then increase, then decrease. Each increase in either force or equipment is a little more powerful than the last. Each decline is not as major as the last. In this way, there is a gradual build-up of crescendo of pain leading up to the climax.

Tops – Tops or dominant masters/mistresses must concentrate on their actions since they control the bondage process. They should focus on their partner’s reactions and safety. When the bondage games intensify and the partner/submissive is bound, heart rate, breathing, verbal clues, facial expressions, sweat, blood, swelling and changes in the colour of the skin should be monitored to assess the safety of the bondage. Don’t neglect asking questions to determine your sub’s safety during the session.

Bottoms – Even if you are a bottom, don’t hesitate to voice your emotions, if you feel your safety is at stake. You should also be honest about your responses. If you feel your circulation is being cut off or you are not able to breathe, or don’t feel comfortable don’t hesitate to stop the scene. You don’t have to endure life threatening domination. There is no disgrace in asking to stop, if you feel your health is in danger. You will not be derided for being a bad slave; it’s your health that may be in danger here.

Safety – Ensure that your skin isn’t broken with any cuts or wounds or your circulation isn’t stopped by ropes or restraints. Check your hands and feet frequently and see if the restraints haven’t caused them to go numb or cold. Bottoms/subs should reveal any discomfort; after all, the dominatrix is not at the receiving end and wouldn’t know what you are going through. Safety is the number one concern during bondage games.